Photo credits: Nero Johnson ( @mar.tell )
I’m not really sure what my job title would be, but I’m positive of what it’s not. I’m not a photographer, I’m not a model, I’m not a makeup artist, and I’m not a stylist. I am however an avid fashion lover, I’m a creative director, I’m a blogger, and I’m a(n) (internet) personality.
Although I can do makeup, take pictures, model, and style outfits for photoshoots, that’s not my main focus. Just because I have these talents doesn’t mean I get to overshadow the women who are actually seeking a career in the things I just do for fun.
That brings me to this week’s topic — SLAY IN YOUR OWN LANE.
I can remember being in elementary school and having an endless list of friends. I can remember sitting with a big group of girls in the cafeteria, sharing my snacks with them at snack time, and even having big birthday parties where they were all invited.
But, somewhere along the line things changed. When I entered into middle school girls began to get jealous, catty, and just downright mean. You know the movie “Mean Girls?” Well, it’s pretty accurate. Girls are actually that vindictive, mean, jealous, and bratty. So what’s the problem?
My guess is that in middle and high school, we are not mature enough to understand that there is room enough for all of us to shine. We think that we must be the “top dog” and no one can share that title with us, however that’s not the case.
If I haven’t learned anything else in my college career I’ve learned to love myself, and to let other women love themselves as well. The nicer you are to the women you meet, the better off the both of you will be. And I’m not saying fake the funk, actually try being genuine.
Women who stick together can accomplish countless things. Think about this for a moment– the business world is one that is dominated by men. Women have to fight so hard to achieve just half of what a man has accomplished regardless of our intellect. Wouldn’t it be easier if those women who are at the top of these companies reach down and help the young women that wish to follow in their footsteps?
If you’ve accomplished a goal of yours that you knew was not easy why not help out a young woman who wishes to achieve the same level of success as you? Often times women see other successful women as competition, but there’s enough room at the top for everyone. We can all make it, we can all be successful, and all we have to do is ban together.
Madeleine Albright said it best, “there’s a special place in hell for women who don’t support each other.”
So next time think twice about stepping on your sister’s toes. Find your lane and SLAY IN IT. Instead of feeling jealous or vindictive toward her, offer her a complement, uplift her, or do whatever it takes to make her life a little bit easier. A flower doesn’t think of the flower growing next to it, it just blooms.
And remember… “Behind every successful woman, there’s a tribe of successful women who have her back.”
Peace, love, & good vibes…